Peace is the fruit of our relationship with God. Peace is not the absence of conflict. Peace is not a beautiful beach hidden away from the cares of the world. Nor is it the feeling we get after we have successfully executed a well devised plan. It does not come from something we can create apart from God. Peace is a fruit of who God is.
"For he himself is our peace, who has made the two one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall, by abolishing in his flesh the law with its commandments and regulations. His purpose was to create in Himself one new man out of the two, thus making peace, and in this body to reconcile both of them to God in the cross, by which he put to death their hostility." Ephesians 2:14-16
Jesus destroyed the barrier of sin and death, he removed the dividing wall that kept us from seeing God face to face. He is Son of God and Son of Man. He wants us to be one new man and no longer be separated from the Father. He did this by dying for us when we were His enemy. We try to find a way to appease the ones we have conflict with. I have tried to appease those I have conflict with. I determine what side I am on. I see my side as right and the other person's side as wrong. I can choose to stay in this cycle and not have peace. As long as I try to convince the other to be like me and conform to my way of thinking the wall of separation divides us. This was my plan to make peace. I choose to allow those into my life who have the same values and similar ways of thinking. I have believed conformity is unity. The absence of different ideas does not bring balance and peace, on the contrary it is dangerous. It puts me in the position of control and not in the position of a Son of God.
Jesus is our example. He called us to " do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourself. Each of you should not look out only for your own interests but for the interests of others." Philippians 2:3-4
Jesus came to destroy the barrier of us and them. His heart's desire is to make us one with Him as He is one with the Father and the Holy Spirit. Jesus unclothed himself with his equality to God and came humbly and subjected himself to man. He lived in the womb of a sinner. He nursed at her breast. He did not think at himself too highly to grow up in a family and start from an embryotic state. He took the nature of a servant and did not fear that he would lose his identity by serving others. He first became obedient to death, then he humbled himself and died on the cross. He was naked, defenseless and had no self protection. He showed us how to put to death hostility and make the two one. To have peace we must die to how we desire to live and let the life of the Son of God and Son of Man be made new and complete in us.